this is me.
and my love.
he can't stand PDA.
i love it.
(i literally had to BEG him to take a photo kissing me with everyone around us)
i'm a social butterfly.
he's quite content as a hermit.
i want to go out of the house and play.
he wants to sink into the couch.
i have a lot of energy and spunk.
he is calm cool and collected.
we are different.
in SO many ways we complete opposite.
we argue. we fight. we yell. we roll our eyes at each other.
i am usually right.
and he is smart to know that. ;)
we also smooch like crazy.
call each other first if an emergency.
share our most exciting happiest moments with each other.
and can't wait to see each other after a long day.
we have been married for over 10 years now. 10 years that we are
both D word proud of.
they were rough.
filled with tears and frustration. true sadness
and anger. honestly there were SO many times i really
didn't know HOW we could "make it."
the first 2 years were just about as close to a nightmare in real life as it gets.
i mean, don't get me wrong we LOVED each other.
we started out this relationship as BEST friends.
i had two small small little girls and he LOVED them with all his heart and supported me and helped me take care of them. i remember watching him rock my baby girl
(who at the time was just 16 months old)
with bottle in hand, to get her to sleep.
this is every single mamas DREAM man.
and i had him.
he got down on his knee in the white sand beach in monterey
and asked ME to be his forever.
geeeeeez. he was THE ONE.
the one for me.
the one for my girls.
the one to build a life and family with.
and THAT is what carried us through the first 2 years.
and then the next 5.
because it was just as rough.
getting on the same page and staying there was rough.
settings goals together and keeping them was rough
we would have a few good weeks and then
a few awful months.
some days we REALLY just would make it through a day at a time.
but you guys...we made it. we made it to year 8.
we turned a major page.
together.
we hit a point when we said this is NOT working.
we love each other. and our four daughters.
but it wasn't working.
i know exactly what happened/what we did
to make our page turn together, i won't share it here, now.
but truly, we had a problem and it HAD to get fixed.
year 8 and 9 were amazing years.
10 is doing pretty great, too ;)
we aren't blind to the fact that relationships and people grow and change.
we know things will come about through time
with each other that will push us and shove us.
for reals, everyday its something new we have to figure out...two different minds that think differently and feel their way is the right way.
but we have created a foundation for our marriage and our family.
we have again vowed to stick together.
we are NOT perfect. we are REAL.
we make mistakes. and we also make up for those mistakes. and you know what?
sometimes we DONT make up for those mistakes.
sometimes we just have to get through them.
sometimes we have to let it roll off our backs.
sometimes we have to suck it up and say sorry even when we don't want to.
one of my VERY favorite lines from a song that
has stuck with me year after year
is from the SheDaisy song
'i'm taking the wheel'
we bend but we don't break.
we bend. but my andy and i don't break.
we went through some really hard times. made difficult decisions.
heard some REALLY bad news.
paid high prices and learned big lessons.
we didn't break.
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